I don't think this question is unclear at all:

How can someone prove that he knows you more than yourself?

I know about personalities of some people, but I cannot prove it through valid reasons. How do you know if a person really does understand you more than yourself as an individual?

Well, I think I understand your perspective. If OP know a model of personality and ask questions based on that, then their understanding will improve significantly, and not only they can find the correct term to describe what they feel, but also be able to ask clear questions here.

But in OP's perspective, it may not be unclear why their question is unclear:

Please clarify your specific problem or add additional details to highlight exactly what you need. As it's currently written, it’s hard to tell exactly what you're asking.

I think in their perspective they are doing exactly what it suggests, to their best. Of course their best is not enough, but telling them to do the thing they have already done will only confuse them. I suggest for this type of question we should encourage OP to read textbooks, or else they will never find the necessary vocabulary to describe their problem.

For those who have known me enough, I think this is the one big problem of this site, beside lacking of user base. But it is easy to fix if we can have perspective-taking and aware of our illusion of transparency. We may also want to use the I-message to talk with them.

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    +1 It's a good idea @Ooker. Do you have some verbiage to suggest to modify the current close message? – Arnon Weinberg Nov 10 '18 at 5:42
  • @ArnonWeinberg AFAIK, the "unclear" close reason is a standard SE close reason that can't be modified though. – Andrew T. Nov 12 '18 at 8:04
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    @ArnonWeinberg I don't think we need to modify the close notice; a comment will help. See my answer below – Ooker Nov 12 '18 at 14:36

For now, I can only think of this canned comment:

I would suggest you to read some textbook about personality psychology. Believe me, after you pass a couple first chapters, your insight will improve significantly, and you will know what to say to your friend and how to ask a question that everybody can answer here. Or else you will never find the necessary vocabulary to describe your problem, to the point of satisfactorily.

But I think we should have a longer discussion about why only reading textbooks can help outsiders catch the necessary vocabulary to describe their problem satisfactorily.

  • Availability to textbooks, or even libraries is not universal. There are SE users who's main access to written knowledge is only their cell phone. So it's better if messages don't assume a certain level of affluence if they can avoid it. – uhoh Nov 17 '18 at 3:59
  • Unfortunately, I think that the only way to do it is reading textbooks, given my experience on this site, before and after reading them. – Ooker Jan 3 at 14:46

I think this particular question is an example of an XY problem. The OP is asking "how can someone prove (they know someone more than that person knows themself)?".

They haven't in any way established that it makes sense to do so, they haven't set up a context for this interaction to take place, they haven't defined what it means to "know" someone, etc.

Otherwise, the question is unclear and should be closed as such.

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